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The Four Things That Matter Most

10th Anniversary Edition: A Book About Living

Hardcover – ISBN 978-1-4767-4853-5
Atria Books – Simon and Schuster | June 2014 | $18.00

Readers Guide

Four simple phrases: “Please forgive me,” “I forgive you,” “Thank you,” and “I love you” — carry enormous power to mend and nurture our relationships and inner lives. These four phrases and the sentiments they convey can help us resolve interpersonal difficulties with integrity and grace. In The Four Things That Matter Most, Dr. Ira Byock, an international leader in palliative care, explains how we can practice these life-affirming words in our day-to-day lives and improve our emotional well-being. He demonstrates the value of “stating the obvious” in letting the people we love know that we love them and provides practical insights into the benefits of letting go of old grudges and toxic emotions.
  • Cat Saunders
    The Four Things That Matter Most is a tribute to compassion.  Master storyteller and physician Ira Byock shows how four simple statements can improve your life, heal your relationships, and transform your understanding of death.  Every home deserves of copy of this gem!
    Cat Saunders, PhD
    Author of  “Dr. Cat’s Helping Handbook
  • Caroline Mysse
    The Four Things that Matter Most is a book of common sense wisdom that has the power to dynamically change your life. It is a pleasure to recommend a book that encourages you to transform the quality of your life in simple ways that actually work.
    Caroline Myss
    Author of “Sacred Contracts” and “Anatomy of the Spirit”
  • Larry Dorsey
    For anyone who believes that years of therapy are required for transforming relationships with others, this book will come as a pleasant surprise. Great wisdom has always been simple – that is why it is elusive – and great wisdom is what this book contains.
    Larry Dossey, MD
    Author of “Healing beyond the Body”, “reinventing medicine,” and “Healing Words”
  • Maggie Callanan
    A tender read I highly recommend — The Four Things That Matter Most offers simple but solid solutions for healing our complex and fragile relationships — wisdom that will surely enrich our lives.
    Maggie Callanan
    Co-author of “Final Gifts”
  • Zorba Paster
    The 4 Things That Matter Most provides simple, insightful words and stories that move the heart and the soul.  Dr. Byock shows us a graceful way to nurture relationships and heal those that need mending.
    Zorba Paster, MD
    Author of "The Longevity Cod"
  • Dr. Stephen R. Covey
    This beautiful book, full of wisdom and warmth, teaches us how to protect and preserve our most valuable possessions–the relationships with those we love. It shows that the things that matter definitely aren’t “things,” and how to empower your life in the right direction.
    Dr. Stephen R. Covey
    Author of "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People"
  • Rochi Joan Halifax
    Ira Byock’s compassionate and important work in the field of dying has given him the four great treasures of love and freedom that all of us can use throughout our life. This wonderful book opens the doors to these jewels of compassion.”
    Joan Halifax, PhD
    Abbot, Upaya Zen Center, Sante Fe, author of “Being with Dying”